Travelling as a couple has its ups and downs. After travelling together for 6 years now, we have learnt a few things on how to have the best time possible and also stay strong and happy as a couple.
There are many perks to travelling as a couple but just as many perks to travelling with a family.
When travelling as a couple, it is important to share planning and organising responsibilities. I love to plan and research whilst Calum is in charge of the budget (and making sure we stick to it).
This one sounds obvious but talking to each is so important regardless but even more important when travelling. Be open and honest with what you want out of your time travelling and if you have any worries or problems, talk about it! On our first trip, our last stop was in NYC and I was desperate to see a broadway show. Calum, being in charge of the budget, had to be honest and stop me from planning an expensive meal followed by a show because we just didn’t have the budget for it. Because we were open and honest, we were able to decide and find cheap tickets for a broadway show and cut down on the spending during the day.
Don’t take things personally
It can be hard not to take things personally when travelling for so long. When we both get tired we can be grumpy and snappy. Communication can help but trying to relax and understand each others grumpy moods definitely helps. When we were in Japan, we had spent 3 months in South East Asia in the warm heat, meaning we instantly came down with a cold when we headed into a wet, cold Japan. This put us both in a bad mood so we had to focus on really motivating each other to explore the fantastic city and not take things so personally!
Have ‘me’ time
This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to spend a day apart or explore separately but find some time throughout the day to take some ‘me’ time. For us, I have a hot relaxing bath with a kindle after a long day exploring and before our evenings out whilst Calum relaxes with his PSP or catches up with football news on the laptop.
Have date nights
When travelling the world, it can be easy to forget about romance and date nights. We love to sit in a nice restaurant or bar, have a few drinks and just chat (we are that couple that never stop talking!). So make sure you plan some romantic activities and evenings during your travels.
Manage your expectations
You are travelling in new countries. It is not going to always be fun and always romantic and always perfect. There will be times, after a 6 hour bus journey, where you have to visit the most disgusting toilet known to man kind (which is basically just a hole) and your partner will have to stand nearby incase you fall into the hole toilet! There will be times when you take a cooking course, the food is way to spicy and everything goes south! There will be times when one of you gets ill (or you’re both ill!) and the other looks after you and nurses you to health. There will be times when you are completely lost in the middle of a village in China and have to pray that stumbling around streets will eventually bring you back to your hostel driver. Yes – we talk from experience.
When you are travelling, it is so important that you talk about what you both want to get out of your trip – where you want to go, what you want to see and what experiences you want to have. You may not have identical plans, hopes and wishes but compromise and plan your trip together. When we travel, Calum can take an incredibly long time photographing everything. He also misses Chelsea football games whilst we travel, so we find local pubs and bars that show the game. I love cooking classes (although am pretty darn rubbish at the actual cooking part!) and I love watching local dance and theatre performances (which Calum is not a huge fan of) but we compromise and enjoy the time together.
Push each other to try something new
One of the best things about travel is that you can encourage, motivate and push each other. When we first went to Asia, I had just started eating meat again after being a vegetarian for ten years. I was so worried about eating meat and eating weird meals but the longer we were there, the more I started to experiment with food. I loved that I started to eat unusual foods and thank Calum for encouraging me to do so!
One of the best things about travelling as a couple, is the amazing memories you make together. Take a camera (or four in our case) and photograph all those amazing moments you share together.
You are with the person you love, travelling the world! It can be surprisingly easy to forget about having fun when you get bogged down with seeing everything in a short space of time and doing as much as humanly possible. Just don’t forget that travel should be fun! So have fun together and enjoy your travels!
Have fun in your couple travels! Any tips you can suggest? Share your thoughts in the comments below 🙂